Attention couples. If you’re experiencing the grief that comes with severe debt problems, I probably don’t have to point out that your sex life may be lagging. Indeed, it could be that for you right now, just the thought of sex holds all the attraction of waiting in line to pick up your dry cleaning.
The truth is, for many partners, good sex and bad debt are incompatible. This we know at Credit Canada through the many thousands of couples who each year seek our credit counselling services. Troubled souls often reveal – usually in round about ways – that with money problems top of mind, it’s difficult to get one’s carnal mojo working.
“Happily though, we’re doing our part at Credit Canada to restore romance to bedrooms across the land.”
It can be a sad business when the tingles take a dive due to money worries. Partners find themselves feeling listless, powerless, distracted, oft times depressed. Then there’s the other side of the coin – the agitation. The bickering and outbursts over spending; the lingering fear of meeting monthly bills; perhaps even the indignity of sorting nickels and dimes on dim weekday mornings. Nothing sexy about any of that.
Happily though, we’re doing our part at Credit Canada to restore romance to bedrooms across the land, making them places of joy and passion, rather than dens of worry and spite. We get to the root of problems associated with sex and debt. That root is called stress.
“Dr. Levkoff says too much stress can negatively influence sex in a number of ways physiologically and psychologically.”
Sexologist Dr. Logan Levkoff offers insight into the matter. She reports through The Huffington Post that too much stress can negatively influence sex in a number of ways physiologically and psychologically.
Levkoff says the human body under sharp stress produces hormones that can impact metabolism. Sluggishness often results leading to unintentional weight gain. Then a psychological factor comes into play – namely, a negative self-image that deadens the desire to get naked and hop into bed with a partner. This is more common in society than many of us might suspect.
Being overstressed also takes a toll on the libido (the sex drive). Levkoff notes that one of the hormones produced by stress is Cortisol, which is good for the body in small doses for short bursts of time. But chronic stress can spawn too much Cortisol for extended periods of time. The result is that normal sex hormones are suppressed and hopes for lovemaking are dashed.
“You don’t want a partner who flies off the handle and snaps at you … Who wants to go to bed with an emotional monster?”
Meanwhile, in purely psychological terms, overstressed partners can make for miserable, highly unsexy company. “You don't want a partner who flies off the handle and snaps at you because he or she is overwhelmed. And you don't want to be the one who incites those feelings of frustration in someone that you love. Who wants to go to bed with an emotional monster? Relationships suffer when we are stressed, especially if we stop communicating,” Levkoff says.
She adds that stress also often leads to self-medication – particularly excessive drinking, which of course can create all sorts of havoc between couples, with the awful spectre of addiction waiting in the wings. I say hear, hear to that. Anybody with any reasonable glass-tipping experience knows that sex and heavy drinking do not make good bedfellows. Frequently it’s a comedy of errors, resulting in deflated egos, among other things.
“As so many thousands of Canadians have discovered over the past half century, our credit counselling services can do wonders for the libido.”
From our standpoint at Credit Canada, stress associated with sex and debt is an easy problem to solve. Just get on board with our not-for-profit credit counselling and debt consolidation programs.
As so many thousands of Canadians have discovered over the past half century, our credit counselling services can do wonders for the libido when suddenly all the debt problems you face are managed through one affordable monthly payment, often with reduced interest. Moreover, your confidence, energy, and sense of self-empowerment grow through financial coaching that makes you a smart handler of your money.
Just look at it this way, we get between you and your creditors so that you and your partner can again have fun getting between the sheets.